Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Lyn & Sentimental September

Happy Autumn! I know it's not going to be fall officially till later this month. But with the school children back in class and the days getting shorter, let's not quibble--it's fall.

I like fall. I'm looking forward to the leaves changing (some maples here are already red-tipped) and baking apple and pumpkin pies and watching the season change again.

I've called this month Sentimental September. First of all, because my two books Finally Home & Finally Found have been reissued as a Love Inspired Classic. It's hard to believe that I've been writing long enough to have books being re-issued. But I know many readers only discovered Love Inspired romances in the past few years and they are eager to read our earlier books.

That's quite a compliment to us. You support by buying our books and telling friends and booksellers and librarians about them. Thank you from the bottom of my heart (and theirs).

And the second reason for Sentimental September is that I'd like to take a few moments and recall good advice that I received from other women. I think first of my mother. She was a strong woman. She had to be. Nowadays being a single mom is commonplace, but not in 1960. When my father deserted her, she was left with two pre-teens and a five-month old baby.

I won't go into the struggle of those days. However, since she and my father shared a business, she not only lost a husband, but also her way of making a living. But she shouldered on. We never missed a meal and we stayed together. Those were rough years, but they taught me a lot about strength, pulling together as a family and not giving into despair.

The advice my mom gave me came years later and unfortunately, it was advice that she should have followed herself so she gave it to me with great regret. Her advice?

She said to me when I was a young mother, "I see now how so much would have been different if I'd just followed God and depended on Him each day."

When she said that to me, I broke into tears. Because I knew what she meant. She had gone it alone through those hard years and had not known that God could be with her in a very personal way. She believed in God and sent us to Sunday school but she never discovered a personal relationship with Christ till she as well into mid-life.

I found Christ early and never strayed far and HE has blessed me. Sometimes I like to take credit for my accomplishments because I am a hard-worker. But my mom was a hard-worker too and she said to me when she was in her sixties, "I have never gotten what I wanted in life. None of my dreams."

That made to cry too. My mother was a wonderful woman in so many ways, but she always wanted to be in control. She never let God take charge and she missed so much.

So it was sad advice that my mother gave me. I've tried to give the same advice to my daughter, teaching her to depend on Christ every day. We pray together but I don't know God's mind for her. I just pray for her and my son every day and hope that they will never feel the regret my mother did.

Finally Home & Finally Found have a scene at the end of the second book where an old secret is uncovered by the three sisters in the story and healing and joy comes. Let me know if you enjoy it--if it speaks to your heart.

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

I can say my mother was also a strong person and gave a lot of good advise when I was growing up, but I didn't listen to her advise. I had to make my own mistakes before I learned she was right.

Lyn Cote said...

That's is the hard way! But often the most common way--unfortunately!

squiresj said...

My Lady Pastor who took over after her husband died helped me with advice once. I had moved from Illinois to Arizona. I called her asking her what I was supposed to do with the Skoal my husband brought home from work and asked me to put in the refrigerator. I hated that stuff and he knew it. He was just recently saved 3 months when we met and married 3 months later. She told me to put it in the refrigerator and not say one word and she would guarantee he would ask if it was still there 3 weeks later, thinking I'd get rid of it. Then he would get rid of it. She was right.
Also a Preacher's wife in Texas told me if I wanted my husband to do something, tell him to do the opposite. She said, her husband always asked what tie to wear to church and would always wear the opposite one.
This has worked in so many situations it is unreal. I've been married 30 years too.
My Mama told me when I got married that men only gave 10% if you were lucky and women gave 90%. I think it is more like 95% to 5% myself.
I always enjoy your blog, books and website. God Bless.

Lyn Cote said...

Yes, Jane, men do like to be a challenge at times! GRIN Thanks for stopping by.

Anonymous said...

Enjoyed reading the comments.
I think all of us could benefit from your mom's advice. I know I have
JOYE
JWIsey(at)aol(dot)com

Rose said...

Lyn,

My mom really showed her strength during a six month health ordeal. She went from being healthy to almost unable to walk with the aid of a walker. By the time a doctor diagnosed her with osteoporosis, she had two broken hips and fractured pelvis. During this time, she just kept saying: "It's not my time to go yet."

That was in 2002 and to look at her now you'd never know she had such trouble! She's 76, lives alone and is serving a term on the city council!

I only hope I can show such strength and determination if faced with that adversity.

Rose

Lyn Cote said...

It's frustrating, isn't it when a doctor can't get the diagnosis right? I wouldn't want that job but I also don't like it when doctors run out of tests and then tell the patient--this is all in your head, go to a psychiatrist!

EllenToo said...

As long as my father was alive my mom was a very strong person. Not only did she raise three kids (two of whom are boys) but she did it never knowing where we would be living next or how long we would stay. My father worked for an oil company and we moved a lot! Not only that but she was alone with the three of us kids many times for days on end as dad was off baby sitting an oil well. My father died 5 days short of their 50th wedding anniversary and from there it was as if she gave up on life. She finally died from breast cancer seven years later. She was always involved in church activities but I wonder if she gave up on God after dad died.

Cherie J said...

I am also thrilled about it becoming fall soon. I live in Florida and usually by this time of the year I am looking forward to the cooler weather. I also start looking forward to the upcoming holidays with anticipation.

Sounds like your mom was an amazing woman Lyn. I am so thankful for my mom as well.

Lyn Cote said...

Ellen, the story of your mom is interesting. You would have thought that she was accustomed to not having him with her with that kind of job. But as they say, only the hearts knows.